Empowering women is assuming

One of the biggest trends that are going on at the moment is about empowering women. We've seen the amazing Women March all over the world as one of the biggest protest in the history and we've heard women voices clearer than ever. It is the hunger for respect, above all. And, for me, is more about assuming.

I don't want to say like Timothy Leary about the fact that « women who seek to be equal to men lack ambition » or like William Golding « I think women are foolish to pretend they are equal to men. They are far superior and always have been. Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she will give a baby. If you give her a house, she will give you a home. If you give her groceries, she will give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she will give you her heart... ».

I like to speak about assuming! Assuming each other's nature, way of being, acting, feeling. Assuming everyone's role and possibilities. We can say women are not like men and this is the great achievement.  Women are like women: subtle, full of shades and tons of ideas (sometimes, too many), struggles, with various (sometimes, exacerbated) areas of emotions, intuitive, fragile and strong, destructive and constructive, altogether. Women can be everything they want within their nature. So as men! We don't want to blame the differences, but to embrace them! They are good, they are fulfilling! Let's assume the differences and enjoy them!

So assuming everyone's nature we can see things more clearly. Women are feminine, emotional, loving, caring, in need of attention, time and sharing offering more than she receives and being good at it, while men can be the counterpart filling all that with less. Less is about the spectrum of shades in which men gravitate, it is not about charges, duties, physical or emotional vibes.

Women, too, need to understand men's nature and assume it. This gives to the mind the possibility to construct images that are in accordance with reality and true perceptions. Don't expect too much, don't expect too little. Don't expect at all! Take it as it is! Or leave!

That's assuming what it is, what you feel, what you decide and what you do! This gives you the power of clearness each woman or man needs. The power of true perception, of seeing the essential and making progressive steps towards what's natural.

Look at the case of Sophia Amoruso which I, definitely, admire for assuming the way she is and the way she constructed her power from it! From no-good, no-skills in school and dropping-out high-school, from tons of failures, she made her steps towards what her passion brought her to and helped her unlock her potential, becoming one of the most powerful entrepreneurial women. She followed her intuition in knowing that she was capable of doing something special, no matter how the society patterns may have wanted her to become.

It is to know that with 52% of the professional area where women work, only a small part is in the leadership roles. Only 14% are in executive roles, 8% is the figure to show the top female earners and only 4% of Fortune 500 CEOs are women. This make the statistics show that parity can be reached in about 80 years of evolution which is quite a gap.

Companies' studies show that women in leadership roles brought much more to the companies in terms of skills and ideas and, on average, Fortune 500 companies with more women representation have a higher financial performance.

So, I get back to empowering women concept which means helping each other cross the barriers like fear of failure, of not coping with family tasks as expected, inferiority complex. But, in order to cross these barriers, each woman needs to assume her role, focus on her goals, learn from mistakes and do her own thing, her way.

It's not only about leadership roles, or career goals, in society terms.  Being a real woman is doing whatever you want, on every level you want that makes you feel authentic and accomplished, assuming who you are and what you do with gratitude.

Photography: Stylezza

Model: Guendalina Donnio

MUA: Maria Netag

Host: Hotel Metropole Monte Carlo 

Author Andra Oprea